My Year-End Review

Between a backstabbing best friend and a betrayed best friend, the latter suffers more. I was in that position. I was in a heavy position for the first quarter of 2017.

Shame on me for trusting him too much. I was there for him when he almost gave up on life multiple times, but when it’s time for him to protect our nonsense conversations, he treated me like an ordinary friend he knew yesterday.

It’s clearly a betrayal of trust. Our best friendship was something rare these days but it’s healthier to burn bridges permanently than to trust the wrong person again. RIP Best Friendship!

Luckily, when a window closes, a door opens. Two special moments saved me from toxicity before 2017 ends.

October 7, Davao Convention Center – It’s a Saturday. I was invited by Melanie Nazareno, PTRP (She’s a clinical instructor in Davao Doctors College) to speak in front of 40 families with children diagnosed with cerebral palsy.

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Facebook Community: World Cerebral Palsy Day PH

It’s my first time to talk in front of a crowd.

Nervous as I was, the moment began (as pictured). I opened the speech with a cordial “Hi” and ended it with the word “Survivor.”

It’s a simple speech overall but in my own little way, I was hopeful my words made a difference, and all dads and moms there would still remember the story I shared one year from now.

October 23, Davao Doctors Hospital (DDH) – My physiatrist wanted me to come to her clinic for a Free Botox Treatment. It’s the long-term treatment for my spastic thighs.

I was with a group of experienced rehab doctors and a physical therapist that night. It’s a delight listening to their discussion. Doctors have this it’s-hard-to-explain ability to satisfy my curiosity even if I’m only listening.

While the cure was injected into my spastic adductors and hamstrings, all I could think of is tennis. I didn’t see myself playing like Rafa after the treatment. It’s unrealistic.

Let’s say I was more daydreaming than expecting. Sounds crazy but this made me calm.

After immunization, my legs were kinda light and 10x less spastic. It felt I have a new pair of 60% Feather-like legs and a bag of concrete was released inside me.

My muscle spasticity will return of course. We’re inseparable but one thing is for sure, my story doesn’t here. The search for a full long-term treatment continues in 2018 and beyond!

#Survivor Insights 221: Heroes, Healers, Hustlers – Lessons of The Story (Episode 14)

It’s no surprise there are no Healers in the Final 4. It proves these Heroes and Hustlers are scared of Healers. Healers are rare people who can understand the cerebral and social game of life like no one else. Backstabbers can kill them alive but who cares. Doctors, therapists, nurses and social workers are resilient. It takes time for these Healers to heal their wounds but they can and they will.

More Lessons: Episode 1Episode 2 – Episode 3Episode 4Episode 5Episode 6Episode 7Episode 8Episode 9Episode 10 – Episode 11Episode 12Episode 13

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Dr. Mike Zahalsky, 43, Florida

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#Survivor Insights 220: Heroes, Healers, Hustlers – Lesson of The Story (Episode 13)

It’s uneasy to win against a backstabber. He’s strategically manipulative. She’s greatly persuasive. In other words, they can do anything to tear you down. It’s up to you how to get up, and get even.

More Lessons: Episode 1Episode 2 – Episode 3Episode 4Episode 5Episode 6Episode 7Episode 8Episode 9Episode 10 – Episode 11Episode 12

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Ashley Nolan, 26, Florida

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#Survivor Insights 219: Heroes, Healers, Hustlers – Lesson of The Story (Episode 12)

Gossips fly. These are circulated by the people you love or you hate. Either way, you need to protect yourself from those. If not, you’re allowing them to play it against your reputation.

More Lessons: Episode 1Episode 2 – Episode 3Episode 4Episode 5Episode 6Episode 7Episode 8Episode 9Episode 10 – Episode 11

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Lauren Rimmer, 35, North Carolina

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#Survivor Insights 218: Heroes, Healers, Hustlers – Lesson of The Story (Episode 10)

Episode 10: People talk about people. It’s the inevitable truth. If they can confront you at the right place and time, they’re front stabbers. They can be trusted with your life. If they talk negatively behind your back, they’re back stabbers. Never share the color of your underwear to them even for a nonsense chat. You’ll regret it.

More Lessons: Episode 1Episode 2 – Episode 3Episode 4Episode 5

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JP Hilsabeck, 28, California

Episode 11: You have a strong personality if you’re unafraid to speak what’s on your mind. This is something rare that many people are scared of. They neither hate nor dislike you. They are only scared of you; that’s why, they do whatever it takes to knock you down.

More Lessons: Episode 6Episode 7Episode 8Episode 9

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Joe Mena, 34, New York

Photos Courtesy of: CBS